Author Brené Brown humorously proclaims herself a professional “vulnerability avoider.” In the safety of her research, she spent 12 years studying everything there is to know about vulnerability and its relationship to shame. With the data collected, she was confronted with a choice: to dare greatly in the face of vulnerability, or to recoil in shame. This book provides practical insight into the nature of vulnerability and how it directly impacts the human experience.
Read on for key insights from Daring Greatly.
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Sheryl Sandberg was devastated when her husband suddenly and unexpectedly died. Family friend and psychology professor, Adam Grant, was a resource and comfort in that season, walking her through the loss. This book brings together personal reflections on grief, interviews with people who have had to overcome harrowing challenges, and a distillation of the latest research on dealing with hardship and resilience-building. More than just information, Option B is full of practical tools and moving reflections that will benefit those suffering loss, as well as their loved ones wondering how best to support them.
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What best predicts success? Is it education? Life experience? Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves argue that more than special knowledge or skills, emotional intelligence (EQ) is an accurate predictor of success in life and work. Emotional intelligence is what separates high achievers from low achievers. You may be smart, but if you aren’t self-aware, able to interpret your own emotions or read other individuals or groups, then your success will be hampered. The good news is that emotional intelligence is not fixed. It’s a skill that can be developed. Emotional Intelligence 2.0 clarifies what emotional intelligence is, and offers suggestions for improving your ability to deal effectively with self and others.
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In his classic book The 5 Love Languages, psychologist and speaker Gary Chapman argues that dysfunction in marriages is largely rooted in the fact that we all speak different love languages, and people fail to learn and speak their partner’s. This leads to couples running on empty emotional tanks. Chapman explains the five love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch), and then shows how the discovery of your spouse’s love language can lead to a more loving, lasting marriage.
Read on for key insights from The 5 Love Languages.
The Beatles sang, “All you need is love.” Unfortunately, five out of ten marriages end in divorce, which suggests that love alone is not enough. During decades of counseling troubled marriages, Dr. Eggerichs frequently observed a destructive pattern: When a woman doesn’t feel loved by her husband, she responds by withholding respect—and when a man doesn’t feel respected by his wife, he responds by withholding love. The result is a self-perpetuating cycle of marital craziness. Eggerichs believes that breaking this cycle is the key to solving most of the problems in the marriage relationship.
Read on for key insights from Love and Respect.
For anyone struggling to sustain the magic of love in their intimate relationships, understanding some key insights about gender differences may prove helpful. Men and women give and receive love differently and have different needs, so we need to change our approach instead of trying to change the person. Friction and resentment are born in relationships not because men and women are different, but because we have forgotten how truly different they are.
Read on for key insights from Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
A recent experience with a flaky, unresponsive girl galvanized comedian and actor Aziz Ansari into taking a break from stand-up routines to explore the landscape of modern romance. He, together with a slew of sociologists, designed a series of sociological studies that took them all over the world and deep into the literature of love. The result was Modern Romance, a comprehensive look at changes in the rules and expectations of love and relationships across recent history and culture, as well as the challenges and possibilities currently at play.
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In a society full of perfectionists, many hide in shame because they inevitably fall short of such an impossible standard. Psychologist and researcher Brené Brown exposes this all-too-common phenomenon of interpreting imperfections as signs of inadequacy. She then goes on to argue that these areas of vulnerability are not failures but amazing opportunities to show courage, exercise true compassion, and connect with others.
Read on for key insights from The Gifts of Imperfection.
At age 23, clinical psychologist Amy Morin lost her mother to a brain aneurysm. On the three-year anniversary of her mother’s death, Morin lost her husband. Not long after remarrying, her father-in-law was diagnosed with a terminal cancer. Refusing to be shattered by yet another death, she sat down to write a list of mental pits that she would need to avoid as she anticipated yet another loss.
Read on for key insights from 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do.